Gue pernah denger ada orang yang bilang kalo sampe laki-laki berpaling ke perempuan lain itu adalah salah perempuannya yang ga bisa menjadi tetap menarik untuk si laki-laki. Udah tugas perempuan untuk jadi menarik sehingga si laki-laki tetap tertarik sama dia, bukan sama orang lain. Gue.. kurang setuju sama statement itu. And I found this letter
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Dear
Cutie-Pie,
Recently,
your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through
entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in
the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It
startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy
and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make
him feel smart and superior.
And
I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little
One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place
that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of
interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is
worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that
is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in
the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of
interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy
who doesn’t need to be kept interested, because he knows
you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as
he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t
stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he
can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and
frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows
his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to
exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every
morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of
reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the
canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and
vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion
or that religion or no religion—as
long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and
every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and
he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most
important thing in common:
You.
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing
you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,
Daddy
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Written by: Kelly Flanagan
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