A student asks a teacher, “What is love?”
The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders… may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one… But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, “this is love… You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person…”
“What is marriage then?” the student asked. The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, “This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get… This is marriage.”
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As I told you before (read this), ketika udah menemukan sesuatu yang tepat, stick with that. Commit to it. Karena ketika mungkin lo sibuk mencari yang lain yang lebih baik, ada orang lain yang menemukan pilihan pertama lo itu, dan dia mengambil, memilih itu. Setelah lama mencari, baru kemudian lo sadar kalo pilihan pertama itu lah yang paling pas, yang paling tepat, tapi sayang dia udah diambil sama orang lain.
Ini bukan masalah pasangan aja, tapi semua hal. Bisa benda yang mau lo beli, bisa mengenai pengambilan keputusan untuk milih pekerjaan.. Anything. Just keep in mind that you should keep (and take care) what you've already had.
